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	<title>Keith &#38; Kay Seabourn &#187; ccc</title>
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		<title>Online meetings not a church</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 15:57:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I read an interesting blog post today over at ChurchCrunch. Based on a federal court ruling, online worship is not a church. Very interesting. I wonder if candidate websites are not politics, hence do not qualify for use of campaign funds to operate? If Amazon.com is not business, hence the discussion about collecting sales tax [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I read an interesting blog post today over at<a href="http://churchcrunch.com/federal-court-online-worship-is-not-a-church/" target="_blank"> ChurchCrunch. Based on a federal court ruling, online worship is not a church.</a></p>
<p>Very interesting. I wonder if candidate websites are not politics, hence do not qualify for use of campaign funds to operate? If Amazon.com is not business, hence the discussion about collecting sales tax should cease to be an issue?</p>
<p>If activities are defined by traditional trappings, then where do we draw the line?</p>
<p>Update: Reading the <a href="http://www.law.com/jsp/article.jsp?id=1202470154549&amp;rss=newswire" target="_blank">full journal article here</a>, which is written in a very readable style, is helpful and enlightening. A critical issue in the court&#8217;s opinion is that the worshipers were not associating together in some form. So if worshipers are interacting through messages, tweets, etc., then perhaps the legal definition is different. The article makes a very good note that legally-required board meetings of for-profits and non-profits are often conducted by virtual technologies.</p>
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		<title>Could Twitter measure spiritual climate?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:43:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This article has me thinking: Is Twitter a national mood ring? So, I&#8217;m intrigued: Could Twitter be used to monitor the spiritual climate of a target area over time? I know someone who uses Twitter to identify hurting people who might be more open to spiritual conversations. He uses Twitter&#8217;s geographic search to look for [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>This article has me thinking: <a href="http://edition.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/08/03/mislove.twitter.research/index.html?eref=mrss_igoogle_cnn#fbid=YGDdjy6EGr9&amp;wom=false" target="_blank">Is Twitter a national mood ring?</a></p>
<p>So, I&#8217;m intrigued: Could Twitter be used to monitor the spiritual climate of a target area over time?</p>
<p>I know someone who uses Twitter to identify hurting people who might be more open to spiritual conversations. He uses Twitter&#8217;s geographic search to look for people in his zipcode area and nearby areas. He searches for words like &#8220;suicide&#8221; or &#8220;depressed&#8221; or &#8220;divorce&#8221;. He then direct messages them a short encouragement. If they respond, he engages in direct message ministry. Because they are nearby, he can invite them to his church, or to an event, or something more geographic.</p>
<p>This paragraph intrigues me:</p>
<blockquote><p>In fact, other research groups have also begun to examine Twitter data and have demonstrated that it can be used to predict the box-office success of an upcoming movie. And Twitter data yields much more detailed polling when compared to traditional methods, enabling real-time feedback for issues that are of local, national or international interest.</p></blockquote>
<p>This person first did this as a job for a local politician, finding prospective supporters and donors based on issues, filtered by the geographic area of the politician.</p>
<p>So, I wonder about  spiritual issues. I wonder if it is a way to &#8220;measure&#8221; the impact of a billboard campaign or a Jesus Video distribution or other ministry strategies.</p>
<p>What do you think?</p>
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		<title>Mutuality is important</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Aug 2010 10:00:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m currently reading The Meeting of the Waters: 7 Global Currents that will Propel the Future Church. It&#8217;s a good book for those engaged in missions. It&#8217;s particularly a good book for those of us who have been in missions for many years and can benefit from seeing with another&#8217;s eyes. I&#8217;ve read the chapters [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Meeting-Waters-Global-Currents-Propel/dp/1434764842/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1280835611&amp;sr=8-1"><img class="alignleft" title="The Meeting of the Waters" src="http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51fLwfVSpzL._SL160_PIsitb-sticker-arrow-dp,TopRight,12,-18_SH30_OU01_AA115_.jpg" alt="The Meeting of the Waters" width="115" height="115" /></a>I&#8217;m currently reading <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Meeting-Waters-Global-Currents-Propel/dp/1434764842/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1280835311&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank"><em>The Meeting of the Waters: 7 Global Currents that will Propel the Future Church</em></a>. It&#8217;s a good book for those engaged in missions. It&#8217;s particularly a good book for those of us who have been in missions for many years and can benefit from seeing with another&#8217;s eyes.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve read the chapters on mercy, mutuality and migration. I strongly agree with the author that <strong>mutuality is crucial</strong> to the meeting of the waters of traditional and current, of the north and the south, of what the Lord has done and what he is doing today. Read the author&#8217;s explanation of mutuality below&#8230;</p>
<blockquote><p>Q: What are the seven trends that are having an impact on Christianity?</p>
<p>A: Mercy. Mutuality. Migration. Monoculture. Machines. Mediation. Memory.</p>
<p>Q: What is the single biggest shift in ministry that today&#8217;s churches are facing?</p>
<p>A: I&#8217;m not comfortable choosing just one, because various ones or others loom prominent in different countries or cities at different times.  That is, after all, one of the most important lessons of The Meeting of the Waters-that Christians in all countries should become adept at recognizing how their country&#8217;s Body, and its witness, is being differently affected by global trends.  But, since you asked, I will say that the most important Global Current is Mutuality, because it is the necessary foundation for all global ministry work.  Mutuality means that believers from traditionally powerful countries (that means Americans and Europeans, for starters) must include and look to Christians from traditionally weaker countries.  People from less-developed countries (think India and China) increasingly have education, technology, ability to travel, trained and plentiful workforces&#8230;and confidence.  Those brothers and sisters also have spiritual experiences and depth that come from generations of suffering and wanting, and as an American I know I need to learn about that.  Not only is Mutuality the right choice for Christians, it is increasingly the only choice in our flattening world.  And the great news is that it is also fun, for I have found Mutuality to be one of the most thrilling and expanding journeys in my Christian life.</p></blockquote>
<p>The blending of those who can offer the power of organization, funding, program management, a we-can-make-a-difference-perspective and the power of deep spiritual experience and lifestyle flowing from want and need and suffering and having little materially. Exciting stuff!</p>
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		<title>A Discernment Process for Spiritual Leadership</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 11:20:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m nearing the end of Ruth Haley Barton&#8217;s excellent book Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership. In Chapter 12, Finding God&#8217;s Will Together, she outlines a process for discerning God&#8217;s will as a group. The emphasis is on discernment. I&#8217;ve used some of these before, but I found this to be the best explanation and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I&#8217;m nearing the end of Ruth Haley Barton&#8217;s excellent book <em>Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership</em>. In Chapter 12, <em>Finding God&#8217;s Will Together</em>, she outlines a process for discerning God&#8217;s will as a group. The emphasis is on <em>discernment. </em>I&#8217;ve used some of these before, but I found this to be the best explanation and most complete process I&#8217;ve heard described.</p>
<p>I really appreciate Barton&#8217;s emphasis on both solitude and group. I really appreciate her statement that combines spiritual community with spiritual leadership.</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>You get somewhere by discerning God&#8217;s will and doing it together.</strong></p></blockquote>
<ol>
<li>Clarify the question for discernment.</li>
<li>Assemble the community of wise stakeholders who have used discernment processes in their individual lives. Involve people who are committed to the process of personal transformation, who have experienced personal discernment in their own decision-making.</li>
<li>Establish or re-affirm guiding principles that will govern the process. Discernment at the leadership level requires an extraordinary amount of safety in the group process. Trustworthy relationships are crucial. Discuss and agree on the values.</li>
<li>Begin with a prayer of quiet trust. Barton suggests this from the Book of Common Prayer:<br />
<blockquote><p>Oh God, by home we are guided in judgment,<br />
and who raises up for us light in the darkness:<br />
Grant us, in all our doubts and uncertainties,<br />
the grace to ask what you would have us to do;<br />
that your spirit of wisdom may save us from all false choices,<br />
and in your straight path we may not stumble;<br />
through Jesus Christ our Lord; Amen.</p></blockquote>
</li>
<li>Pursue a state of indifference to anything but God&#8217;s will &#8212; nothing more, nothing less, nothing else. Ask &#8220;What needs to die in me in order for the will of God to come forth in and among us?&#8221;</li>
<li>Listen on many levels. Listen to our experiences. Listen to inner promptings by the Holy Spirit. Listen to fact and information. Listen to testimony from those most affected. Pay particular attention to distress, confusion, desolation and difficult emotions.</li>
<li>Listen within through periods of silence. Break up group meetings with periods of individual &#8220;listening prayer&#8221; where individuals spend time in silence focusing on a common passage, then share with each other what they heard from God from this passage regarding the question for discernment. Not all may hear something specific, while others may. Listen as a group to what each shares he or she heard from God. Manage group dynamics through periods of individual solitude. Allow dysfunctions to be named. Allow periods for self-awareness.</li>
<li>Select an option consistent with what God is doing among the group. If no single option stands out, identify 2 or 3 options and refine them. Ponder the options to see which sit well with the group, which bring consolation or desolation. Seek inner confirmation.</li>
<li>Agree together. Unity is the fundamental marker that God&#8217;s will has been discerned. As an expression of faith, thank God together for his presence and his gift of discernment.</li>
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<p><strong>You get somewhere by discerning God&#8217;s will and doing it together.</strong></p>
<p>What do you think? How have you used a discernment process for hearing God&#8217;s direction and doing it?</p>
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		<title>Campus Crusade at Texas Tech</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:56:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>For all my friends connected to Texas Tech:</p>
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		<title>Sarah&#8217;s Story</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Jul 2010 02:03:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I watched an amazing story via my friend Andy Fish. “She can’t even feed herself… but she is giving people around the world the Bread of Life.” You gotta take 3 minutes to watch Sarah&#8217;s story.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I watched an amazing story via my friend Andy Fish.</p>
<p>“She can’t even feed herself… but she is giving people around the world the Bread of Life.”</p>
<p>You gotta take 3 minutes to watch <a href="http://andrewfish.com/ministry/sarahs-story/">Sarah&#8217;s story</a>.</p>
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		<title>Facing an uncertain future</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Apr 2010 17:12:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;I&#8217;ve worked at Cape Canaveral for 23 years. We have 3 more shuttle launches then my future is really uncertain.&#8221; Gary was seated next to me flying to Atlanta. The end of the space shuttle program is hitting central Florida pretty hard. As I&#8217;ve written before, Delta Airline&#8217;s seat assignment system is God&#8217;s appointment system. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>&#8220;I&#8217;ve worked at Cape Canaveral for 23 years. We have 3 more shuttle launches then my future is really uncertain.&#8221;</p>
<p>Gary was seated next to me flying to Atlanta. The end of the space shuttle program is hitting central Florida pretty hard. As I&#8217;ve written before, Delta Airline&#8217;s seat assignment system is God&#8217;s appointment system. So out of the 200 people on this flight, Gary was my appointment today.</p>
<p>I continued in the <a href="http://cojourners.campuscrusadeforchrist.com/" target="_blank">Explorer phase</a>, finding out about his work, family, hobbies, interests. Gary recently flew in a World War 2 vintage airplane for 30 minutes of pure delight (which I&#8217;d love to do). He&#8217;s worked in the space industry for 23 years (which was an early dream for this engineer-in-budding ever since watching Shepard, Grissom, and Glenn on little portable TVs in my 4th and 5th grade classroom).</p>
<p>I asked how he was working though his future, handling the uncertainty. I asked if there was a spiritual aspect to his life.</p>
<p>Moving into the <a href="http://cojourners.campuscrusadeforchrist.com/index.html" target="_blank">Guide role</a>, I moved the conversation towards spiritual topics.</p>
<p>It turns out that Gary is involved in a good church fellowship. He is helping the 30 people on his launch team to work through meaning and purpose during uncertainties. We talked further during the hour flight.</p>
<p>So, my divine appointment wasn&#8217;t to help someone find God, but to help someone who is helping others during difficult times. <strong>You just never know what God has in mind until you accept the appointment and start <em>Exploring</em>.</strong></p>
<p>(PS This blog post is being written using <a href="http://android.wordpress.org/" target="_blank">WordPress for Android </a>on my next flight to Dallas. I have an empty seat next to me and the guy the next seat over has earbuds and a book, kind of looks like he&#8217;s hung out a do-not-disturb sign. Do I only have one appointment today? I have another hour or so to explore what God has for this leg of the journey.)</p>
<p>(PPS I was able to break through the earbuds and book. We had a very interesting conversation. He is a 30 year veteran pilot of major airlines, former Air Force fighter pilot, and recently separated from his wife. He was willing to talk about &#8220;theology&#8221;, but  he continually deflected my efforts to get personal about his spiritual life. But it was an appointment which I kept. I recall an early definition that <strong>success in witnessing is simply taking the initiative to share Christ in the power of the Holy Spirit and leave the results to God.</strong>)</p>
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		<title>Extreme dependence on God</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Apr 2010 12:20:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Extreme dependence on God. As we go about launching movements of evangelism and discipleship, we must learn to rely more and more on His power rather than our own. For us the norm needs to be taking faith risks and asking God in faith, “What do You want us to believe You for now?” The [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><strong><img class="alignright" src="http://staffweb.ccci.org/public-images/ase-volume/2010/04-19/wdop-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" />Extreme dependence on God.</strong></p>
<blockquote><p>As we go about launching movements of evangelism and discipleship, we must learn to re<strong>ly more and more on His power rather than our own</strong>. For us the norm needs to be <strong>taking faith risks </strong>and asking God in faith, “What do You want us to believe You for now?” The alternative is simply go after whatever we imagine we can accomplish in our own efforts.<em> (Steve Douglass, President, Campus Crusade for Christ)</em></p></blockquote>
<p>Today is a special day. Today, thousands in the family of Campus Crusade for Christ will gather around the world. We will set aside our normal activities and spend the day before the Lord. We have the privilege of doing this corporately, together worldwide, twice each year.</p>
<p>Together, <strong>we will be asking God for more</strong>. More people to come to know him. More of His glory to shine like the stars on a cloudless night. More of his justice for the oppressed. More laborers for the harvest fields.</p>
<p>Steve also said, “God is calling us to a renewed posture of <strong>extreme dependence on Him and His Word</strong>.”</p>
<p>Today, I am asking God in faith, <strong>“What do You want me to believe You for now?”</strong></p>
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		<title>Solitude doesn&#8217;t mean alone</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 17 Apr 2010 11:00:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[There was another good interaction following my original blogference article. My highly extroverted friend Rich asked: &#8220;Being alone drains me. How does an extrovert like me take advantage of “alone time” without me giving in and making contact with someone else? &#8221; I&#8217;m repeating this extension of the concept of solitude here in my blog. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>There was another good interaction following my original blogference article.</p>
<p>My highly extroverted friend Rich asked: &#8220;Being alone drains me. <em>How does an extrovert like me take advantage of “alone time” without me giving in and making contact with someone else? </em>&#8221;</p>
<p>I&#8217;m repeating this extension of the concept of <em>solitude</em> here in my blog. To read the original interaction, <a href="http://www.metabelle.com/solitude-to-develop-leadership-ccc-blogference-rethink/#comment-534" target="_blank">click here</a>.</p>
<p>The article <em><a href="http://www.theamericanscholar.org/solitude-and-leadership/" target="_blank">Solitude and Leadership </a></em>outlined several components of solitude. One is: <em><strong>deep, intimate conversations where you hear your thoughts out loud in a safe environment</strong></em>.</p>
<p>The author Deresiewicz writes:</p>
<blockquote><p>But there’s one more thing I’m going to include as a form of solitude, and it will seem counterintuitive: friendship. Of course friendship is the opposite of solitude; it means being with other people. But I’m talking about one kind of friendship in particular, the deep friendship of intimate conversation.</p></blockquote>
<p>He continues:</p>
<blockquote><p>Introspection means talking to yourself, and one of the best ways of talking to yourself is by talking to another person. One other person you can trust, one other person to whom you can unfold your soul. One other person you feel safe enough with to allow you to acknowledge things—to acknowledge things to yourself—that you otherwise can’t. Doubts you aren’t supposed to have, questions you aren’t supposed to ask. Feelings or opinions that would get you laughed at by the group or reprimanded by the authorities.</p></blockquote>
<p>So, Mr. Extrovert, talk to a close friend!</p>
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		<title>Followup to Solitude as a Leadership Path</title>
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		<dc:creator>Keith</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Blogference is continuing to generate good interaction even though (fortunately) the firehose flow is reduced somewhat! Justin posted a very insightful comment in a different discussion thread called Get Over Yourself. I and others responded. I&#8217;m repeating the (slightly modified) response here since it&#8217;s another part of the Solitude as a Path discussion. You [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>The Blogference is continuing to generate good interaction even though (fortunately) the firehose flow is reduced somewhat!</p>
<p>Justin posted a very insightful comment in a different discussion thread called <em>Get Over Yourself</em>. I and others responded. I&#8217;m repeating the (slightly modified) response here since it&#8217;s another part of the <em>Solitude as a Path </em>discussion. You can read the full interaction <a href="http://www.metabelle.com/get-over-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-570" target="_blank">here</a>.</p>
<p><em>Time </em>is often a forgotten factor in our immediate-focused world. We all grow throughout our career with CCC, however long it is. In the early years, we’re just trying to learn the skills, learn the methods, figure out which way is up. Think about all the things a new believer has to figure out about the Christian life. Much is by rote mimicking others in the early years. This is normal. It’s kind of like early childhood in which kids mimic the way parents talk and walk and hold their spoons and speak about others. This is the time of <em><strong>dependency</strong></em>.</p>
<p>But over time, the basics become second nature. That’s when the growing of Leadership skills really kicks in. That’s when it’s important to start testing out your own ideas and sharing them with others to see what they think. That’s when questioning is normal, often trash-talking the status quo. Think about adolescence and middle and high school. Even college years. It’s when we try out our own thoughts. It’s a time of <em><strong>independency</strong></em>.</p>
<p>Eventually we move into an adult world in which we learn how to be our own person but to value and respect others also. We learn how to collaborate where we can share our ideas while valuing others. We can give and take without our identity as a person being challenged. This is <em><strong>interdependency</strong></em>.</p>
<p>The challenge to us as leaders helping others develop is to help the process along over <em>time</em>. Recognize the stages. Accept where people are but also help them keep developing.</p>
<p>I really connected with the Greenleaf quote that <strong>Brian Virtue </strong>used in his post on <strong><a href="http://www.metabelle.com/category/self-directed-leadership-development/" target="_blank">Serving Self Leadership</a></strong>. <em>The measure of our servant leadership is how well others develop as servant leaders. </em>How well do they move from dependency through independency and into interdependency.</p>
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