I read a great Bill Hybels’ article this morning on keeping Conflict above Ground: Building community out of controversy. Our pastor quoted from it during his sermon.
Here’s the beginning:
Unity isn’t the word we use to describe relationships at Willow Creek. The popular concept of unity is a fantasyland where disagreements never surface and contrary opinions are never stated with force. We expect disagreement, forceful disagreement. So instead of unity, we use the word community.
The mark of community—true biblical unity—is not the absence of conflict. It’s the presence of a reconciling spirit.
I love that phrase “not the absence of conflict, the presence of a reconciling spirit.” I think this is a mark of a healthy team, a healthy family, a healthy marriage, as well as a healthy church. I also like his concept of learning to fight fair. I think it’s really important. I use it in counseling others who are in conflict with someone.
Are you healthy in your conversations? Are you experiencing community?